Sunday, August 17, 2008

Goodbye My Love

Terrence Patrick Michael O'Donnell
10/19/1938 - 8/17/2008
Today Terry left us to go to a better place. He is no longer in pain and is at peace. He was a fighter until the very end.
Services will be held on Friday August 22nd in Maryland. Detailed emails to follow.

Thursday, August 14, 2008


This is Jules posting for my mom. Terry was taken to a hospice facility yesterday. His condition has worsened and it was no longer possible to care for him at home.

His pain has returned and he can no longer get out of bed. He sleeps most of the day but the few minutes that is awake, he is very agitated and tries to get out of bed. We were afraid he would fall and hurt himself at home.

He is at Holy Cross Rehabilitation and Nursing Home in Burtonsville MD. It is a very nice place where he has a huge private room with a big chair that folds out into a bed for my mom. She has been there with him since he arrived and won't leave his side. Everyone there are wonderful and they are doing a good job controlling his pain. He still is very anxious and begs us to take him home but I think they will change his medicine today which should help.

Mom has her cell phone with her if you would like to call. You can email me if you need her number ( She is hanging in there but is understandly very upset.

Please pray that Terry can be comfortable, both physically and mentally, during this transition. Also, pray for strength and comfort for my mom.

I'll post any updates.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008


One of God's greatest creations is getting ready to go back to HIM....
My wonderful husband, Terrence Patrick Michael O. is getting ready to leave this earth.

Somehow I can't quite get myself to believe that it is really going to happen.
It feels like an avalanche is perched right above my head and I know that it is going to start
melting, and when it does, it is going to come surging down on me, and I will be drowning in the aftermath. All I can do is pray for strength to get through it all, and keep my faith and health.

I thank God every day for allowing me to spend the last 27 years with this amazing person. He has loved me UNCONDITIONALLY for so long. His kindness and overwhelming affection have been the greatest gift ever given to me. The day I met him, I knew he was a true gentleman, and sometimes they are very hard to find.

Right now he is laying in our bed, in our temporary apartment, almost unconscious all the time.
The hospice nurses and social workers come once a week to check on him, but not much else.
If it was not for our family being close by and coming to keep me company, we would be going through all of this alone.

Some people from church have inquired by phone as to Terry's condition, but I have not asked anyone to come here. I prefer to be with my husband alone as much as possible. We still enjoy being alone together, even if he is incoherent most of the time.

The Lord has performed a miracle! Ter was on morphine every two hours for several weeks. I was praying for comfort for Terry without morphine because it was affecting his brain. So far now, he has been off of morphine for 4 days and nights, and has had NO PAIN! Praise the Lord!

Thank you to all of our family and friends who have been agreeing with us in prayer! My goal is to see Terry as comfortable as possible through the whole "transition" process.

Terry is the love of my life, and the Lord put us together for a reason. (He knew I was a mother at heart, because he made me that way...) Someday we will be united forever. Halleluiah!!

Stay tuned for more info.
God Bless you all.
from theos xxxooo